Life is full of interesting choices.
H An overview of my method and philosophy to help you make a well-informed choice.
Treasure hunt.
All of us are on a treasure hunt, to find what makes us happy.
Some are obvious, like money, a job we enjoy, good health. Some are less obvious.
The stuff money can't buy.
Stop chasing.
We've been taught to obsessively chase goals and outcomes. Outcome thinking is a disease in our culture, and people often fail to feel happiness, despite their success.
My work is based on the opposite principle.
Start finding.
Process thinking is learning to enjoy the present moment while we plan for the future, putting our focus, sincerity and care into every step. The quality of the journey becomes the goal.
And the good news? With this approach, you still reach your goals:)
You'll just begin to notice it's a more enjoyable and effective way to move through life.
The Method
I embrace three spaces for creating and inviting something new into your life:
Feasibility: What is functionally possible to change within the foreseeable future?
Viability: How likely will it become part of a sustainable lifestyle?
Desirability: What do you need to become happier and more contented?
I combine mindful awareness with Active Coaching, blending deep self-awareness with courageous action.
The "Active" represents what can be shaped, improved, and intentionally changed… the energy of power, direction, and manifestation. It is courage in motion, clarity with conviction, the conscious pursuit of goals.
The "Mindful" invites acceptance, presence, and wholehearted engagement… a falling in love with what already is, with life exactly as it shows up.
The magic emerges in the dance between these energies. When mindful acceptance meets active transformation, we move beyond the "either/or" of fear and limitation into the "yes/and" of possibility… honoring what cannot be changed while courageously shaping what can.
The first three months.
Within this framework of Active and Mindful energies, we generally focus on 4 foundational areas:
Personal landscape assessment (mapping where you are and where you want to go)
Mindfulness (bringing the practice into daily life)
Process versus outcome thinking (the shift from chasing to finding - less stress, more enjoyment)
Values exploration (get clear on your values and high-level motivators)
Coaching includes access to my private secure online coaching portal with interactive tools, inspiration and ideas to guide you through the process. You'll have access from any device, and receive a complete history of your coaching journey.
* Coaching includes access to my private secure online coaching portal with a tangible, interactive workspace that facilitates communication, supports performance and gives you productivity tools, inspiration and ideas to guide you holistically during the process.
It also gives you access to your coaching account anytime, from any device and at the end of our work together you receive a complete history of your coaching results and journey.
Benefits of long-term coaching from a client’s perspective.
Robert was running a start-up in California. We worked together for one year. He shares some of his insights below on the process.
What is the single most important benefit or breakthrough you received from working together?
Seeing things more clearly: seeing me as an equal player in the world rather than a diminished player. This was a result of practicing awareness, supplemented by reflection in your journaling process, on our calls, and through your questions.
What stands out most about the experience as a whole?
You simultaneously held a non-judgmental space for me – accepting me as I was – and pushed me out into the world. You listened well, reflected well, and asked questions that helped get down to the core of issues, giving me a fundamental and clearer understanding of things. I never felt impatience and that was critical to building trust.
I also really appreciated that every call was productive, even if I didn’t have an agenda. You asked great questions that always led to some introspection. You are a master of creating space for exploration; pushing at the right time. Always supportive.
Some other standouts
1. Weekly meetings: for me, very important. I’ve developed habits over the last 35 years, and I see that constant attention to changing them is what works for me.
2. Focus on curiosity: a powerful tool for both opening and settling into myself. Tinkering around the edges. An ever-widening circle, and the further I go the more I realize that there is nothing to hold on to, that things are ever-changing, that the human experience is beautiful and diverse and that “I’m perfectly ok as I am, and there is room to grow”
3. Identifying blockers and working to remove them: uncertainty about what I “should” be doing… we explored those issues.
4.. Feeling cared for: I felt that you genuinely cared about me and my growth.
5. Values: identification and development of my values and using them as a framework in my daily decisions
Practicing what I want to become! That is the reality.
6. Awareness of the preciousness of life: things could end at any moment, so live “fully” now (and I feel that defining “living fully” was what all of our work was about)
“David’s deep wisdom is the backbone of his coaching. During our time together he helped me see beyond the limited reality I had created for myself in my career and my relationships. Our conversations – which were practical, philosophical and energizing – have left me happier; I’m now living from a more authentic and powerful place. Thank you, David, for helping me deepen my values, and cut away the clutter to reveal what is most important in life.
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