“The first principle is that you must not fool yourself — and you are the easiest person to fool.”

How does it work? My clients explain it best.

Robert ran a start-up in California. We worked together for a year. I asked him afterward what stood out.

Seeing things more clearly: seeing me as an equal player in the world rather than a diminished player. This was a result of practicing awareness, supplemented by reflection in your journaling process, on our calls, and through your questions. 

You simultaneously held a non-judgmental space for me – accepting me as I was – and pushed me out into the world. You listened well, reflected well, and asked questions that helped get down to the core of issues, giving me a fundamental and clearer understanding of things. I never felt impatience and that was critical to building trust.

I also really appreciated that every call was productive, even if I didn’t have an agenda. You asked great questions that always led to some introspection. You are a master of creating space for exploration; pushing at the right time. Always supportive. 

Some other standouts

1. Weekly meetings: for me, very important. I’ve developed habits over the last 35 years, and I see that constant attention to changing them is what works for me. 

2. Focus on curiosity: a powerful tool for both opening and settling into myself. Tinkering around the edges. An ever-widening circle, and the further I go the more I realize that there is nothing to hold on to, that things are ever-changing, that the human experience is beautiful and diverse and that “I’m perfectly ok as I am, and there is room to grow”

3. Identifying blockers and working to remove them: uncertainty about what I “should” be doing… we explored those issues.

4.. Feeling cared for: I felt that you genuinely cared about me and my growth.

5. Values: identification and development of my values and using them as a framework in my daily decisions
Practicing what I want to become! That is the reality. 

6. Awareness of the preciousness of life: things could end at any moment, so live “fully” now (and I feel that defining “living fully” was what all of our work was about)

How it works.

Mindfulness coaching is built around three questions.

• What’s realistic? What is actually possible to change in the near future.

• What’s sustainable? What is likely to become part of a lasting way of living.

• What matters most? What would bring more meaning, contentment, and a life that feels like yours.

These questions shape everything. They make the work sustainable, rather than something you try and abandon.

From there, we move through three areas.

Mindfulness. Not as a concept, but a daily practice that changes what you notice.

Process over outcome. Paying attention to how you’re living as you move toward what you want, not just whether you got there. Most people treat goals as finish lines. One ends, another appears. The quality of the journey gets lost.

Values. What actually matters to you — underneath noise, obligation, and expectation. Most people stay here the longest.

This is about understanding what needs to change and what needs to be accepted.

Some problems come from arguing with reality. Some come from knowing something needs to shift but not knowing how to begin.

We figure that out together.

Your coaching is supported by a private online space.

It holds our sessions, reflections, and notes over time.

It’s also where we stay in touch between calls.

A place where the work continues between conversations, without needing to be rebuilt each time.

You can return to it anytime. From any device. Nothing disappears.

Over time, it gives a clearer view of your own growth and is simple and easy to use.