The library

A collection of observations and essays drawn from more than two decades of conversations about life's important moments.

Is your job killing you?
DAVID FRANK GOMES DAVID FRANK GOMES

Is your job killing you?

Almost every person I know is busy. Often too busy. On a treadmill with no off button.out of control. And then it bleeds into the other areas of your life.

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What is our path and how do we find it?
DAVID FRANK GOMES DAVID FRANK GOMES

What is our path and how do we find it?

As a single footstep will not make a path on the earth, so a single thought will not make a pathway in the mind. To make a deep physical path, we walk again and again.

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The search for meaning.
DAVID FRANK GOMES DAVID FRANK GOMES

The search for meaning.

The search: In pursuit of knowledge every day something is added. In the practice of wisdom, every day something is dropped. he initial stage of dissatisfaction

This stage represents the man or woman who still doesn't know their true nature, but one way or another, has started the search. They wish to find it, though they are not even sure what it is, or how to recognize it when it does appear. Sometimes the search is used as an escape from present circumstances that are not pleasant or ideal. Life may be a heavy load and so the seeker asks the most basic question - surely, there must be a better way of living. Most of those that have started the "search" are at this stage.


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A truth ignored always leads to a crisis.
DAVID FRANK GOMES DAVID FRANK GOMES

A truth ignored always leads to a crisis.

The interesting thing about people becoming dissatisfied with their lives is that we don’t arrive at it overnight; it’s often a very gradual process but within it, there is one universal ingredient that will always be present.

We ignore our true selves, the voice of our hearts, one little inconsequential moment at a time, but we soon learn that there are no inconsequential moments.

They add up like drops of water slowly filling a barrel.

A truth ignored will always eventually lead to a crisis, which means, within every crisis is a hidden truth that has been suppressed.

“If I dare to hear you

I will feel you like the sun

And grow in your direction.”

Mark Nepo

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Problems - Hardships - Delights  -  A P.H.D. Program for real life.
DAVID FRANK GOMES DAVID FRANK GOMES

Problems - Hardships - Delights - A P.H.D. Program for real life.

Destiny is not created in the victory lap. Breakthroughs don't happen at the ribbon cutting ceremony or at the bottom of a champagne glass.

Destiny

When I think of some of the moments in my life where a breakthrough happened for me, I realize they were often forged in the fires of doubt, shaped by the heartbreak of temporary failure or unplanned setbacks.

We create our destiny the moments we arrive at the place we have spent our whole life trying to avoid.

The place where insurmountable puzzles lay sphinx like in front of us, asking to be solved.

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Living a luminous life.
DAVID FRANK GOMES DAVID FRANK GOMES

Living a luminous life.

Luminous …emitting or reflecting light startling bright, inspiring radiant resplendent stunning splendid.

That sounds kind of nice… doesn’t it?

Luminosity, as I'll use the term, is about both an inner state of being which involves shining your light in a self-directed way with awareness and it’s also a way of choosing how to experience the world in a fully engaged way so that the actions you take and the doing you do are done with grace, in a relaxed yet focused way which gives you access to clarity.

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Remold your life
DAVID FRANK GOMES DAVID FRANK GOMES

Remold your life

The border you fear to cross holds the treasure that you seek to find

I've often thought that in a strange way, most of us are living with two identities

The safe identity, the mask we wear in daily life, and the secret identity inside of us, the mask we are dying to rip off, the life we yearn to set free, but feel somehow we can't for whatever reason.

Between the two stands what I call the gap.

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What do you want to be remembered for?
DAVID FRANK GOMES DAVID FRANK GOMES

What do you want to be remembered for?

People may not remember exactly what you did, or what you said, but they will always remember how you made them feel. The information age is presenting complex, challenging issues, and forcing us to look with new eyes at our world, and more importantly, at ourselves. The information age is the penultimate consumer, and what it consumes is not always obvious to people.

It consumes YOUR TIME AND ATTENTION. But if we don't keep our hearts and minds on the big picture vision for our lives, we can get lost down the rabbit hole of details and swept away by the minutia of a life of speed, endless choices and infinite distractions.

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The merry-go- round
DAVID FRANK GOMES DAVID FRANK GOMES

The merry-go- round

Walking along the coast on a night as dark as black ink, a man lost his footing, slipped down a cliff face, managed to grab hold of a branch and dangled there, desperately hanging on as the branch slowly began to give way.

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 Two kinds of change.
DAVID FRANK GOMES DAVID FRANK GOMES

Two kinds of change.

There are two kinds of change challenges: Technical and adaptive.

How to do open heart surgery is a technical challenge. The skills and training necessary to do this are well known, and there is a direct path of time and training required if you want to become an masterful heart surgeon.

An adaptive challenge would be teaching a doctor how to develop a beside manner or develop the skills of empathy and caring to be able to handle the human elements of illness or disease, and also handle their own ability to manage the stress and difficulties of the job.

There is no exact path for that, and it's a more subtle art. You might have had the experience of how few doctors have developed that particular skill set, which is clearly a very important and often neglected part of our health care system. That requires a mind set and a state of being that is capable of understanding the complexities of the human experience.

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What is your real job in life?
DAVID FRANK GOMES DAVID FRANK GOMES

What is your real job in life?

Never give up on yourself. When everything seems to oppose you as you are trying to create something new... please don’t give up because this is the exact time and place that the course will change.

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