What you keep missing.

Latley I have been practicing something I feel has been very helpful, in this tumultuous world, with all its mayhem.

I sit for a few minutes and ask myself: What’s working today?

Not in a grand sense. Just literally. Just ordinary stuff.

The car started.

Hot water came out of the tap.

My body got me out of bed with no pain.

There’s coffee in the cupboard.

The garden is still there, blooming on its own, without my help.

Birdsong outside the window.

Then I pause for a few seconds after each one and let it register properly.

You just take a slow inbreath, like you’re sipping the air, and quietly say the thing.

My car.

My body.

My garden. And something shifts. You actually feel the relief of having a working car or the comfort of warm water on your hands.

The strange fact that your heart worked all through the night without your involvement.

Most of your life is support systems we rarely notice because they happen in the background.

The practice is simply noticing them again.

Not to become a cotton candy positive thinker.

Not to deny difficulty … There are also many things in my life that are not working so well.

Its more of a practice of widening the net of reality

Because the mind naturally scans for problems. It spots what’s missing, broken, unfinished. Useful sometimes. Exhausting if it becomes the only filter. So for a few minutes, you deliberately notice what is quietly holding your life together.

A familiar chair.

Your favorite tea cup.

Your dog asleep on the pillow above your head on your chaise lounge. Small ordinary...easily ignored things.

But they hold you warmly, when you actually pay kind attention to them. And over time, you seem to stop bracing quite so hard against life. Not completely. Just a little… and even thats helpful.

Maybe that’s part of what feels beautiful about mindfulness. Nothing new gets added.

You just begin noticing what was already here.

If this way of relating to life speaks to you, I work with people one-to-one.

Not to escape ordinary life.

To notice it more fully.

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