Why do I keep overthinking everything?

There is a particular kind of exhaustion that comes from a mind that won't stop.

Not from doing too much. From thinking too much. The same decision, turned over and over. The same question, approached from another angle. The choice is basically clear — has been clear for a while — and yet the mind keeps going.

It's not stupidity. It's not weakness. It's what the mind does when it believes that enough thinking will finally produce certainty.

It won't. Certainty doesn't come from more thinking. It comes from the action itself.

What's actually happening is the mind trying to solve for something that can't be solved in advance. So it keeps adding angles. More information. Another perspective. One more consideration. The loop doesn't end because the loop was never going to end that way.

Real change comes from a different kind of loop. You act. You notice what happens. You adjust. You act again. That feedback — between doing and observing and doing again — is what actually moves things. Most people are waiting for thinking to do what only action can do.

This is what I work with in my coaching practice in Vancouver. What I've noticed, after more than twenty years, is that rumination rarely stops through more thinking. It stops when you get into a different kind of loop — and it's easier to do that when you're not doing it alone.